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1. Recognize that you have choices. Usually people-pleasers feel as if they don’t have a choice, and they have to say yes when someone asks for their help. But you DO have a choice – and it’s Ok to say no.

2. Decide on your priorities. If you already have commitments or you have set priorities then it’s easy to say no as you’ve a genuine “excuse”. Do what matters most to you, and please remember - it’s your life!

3. Stall for time – don’t give an answer right away. Say you need a bit of time before you make up your mind. That allows you time and space to think about the consequences. For other things will likely suffer if you take on far too much.

4. Don’t be afraid to add conditions to your yeses. For example, say that you’ll only say yes if someone else says yes as well – or only take on a new task for a set period of time.

5. Are you being manipulated? There are plenty who will use you to ensure their plans succeed, so watch out for those compliments and empty flattery.

6. Be firm when you say no. The first time you say no it feels uncomfortable and hard. But once you’ve done that a few times it starts to feel much easier. Also, if you sound confident then others take you seriously.

7. Don’t defend you decision. You have a right to say no – and to NOT defend yourself. It’s your life after all - you don’t have to explain “why” … or come up with excuses … or be pushed and pressurised. And don’t apologise to others - saying no is not a crime!

Di ko talaga minsan maintindihan mga kaibigan ko kung bakit di nila maiopen sarili nila sa iba. Pa-graduate na eh. Hindi ko na lang sila minsan makontra kasi one vs. many hahaha. Tapos baka may masabi sila or baka magtampo sila. Huuu, basta ako, okay sa akin lahat haha. Peace and unity lang dapat hahaha.

Mas okay na, na kaya ka babagsak eh dahil di mo alam yung sagot sa exam. Pero yung babagsak ka dahil sa katangahang di ka nagbabasa ng instruction, yun ang nakakainis. Napakatanga ko ngayong araw. King ina 10 points din yun. Simple instruction lang na TRUE or FALSE dapat ang isasagot, T or F pa ang nailagay ko. Anong katangahan ang sumapi sa akin ngayon?? Yan ang napapala ng mga taong di nagbabasa ng instruction.

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How to deal with a depressed friend:

1. Listen to him or her. Be an open ear. Listen to him or her no matter how it might become so repetitive.
2. Sometimes, it would be best not to say anything. Just give him or her that tight hug.
3. Comfort him or her . Assure him that you are there for him or her and that he or she is not alone with his or her battle.
4. Don’t tell him or her that she’s just being overly dramatic. You are there to listen and not to judge.
5. Invite him or her to go out and have some fun. Even talking over the phone helps.
6. Be a shoulder to cry on. Simply be there for her no matter what.

Words from: Truth Slaps 

Sabi ko magtitipid na ako. Bigo haha. Nakapagstarbucks pa ako at nakabili pa ng pang arte. Di ko alam kung matatawa o maiinis ako sa sarili ko haha. Self control where are u? Need you right now.

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Mahirap pala maging Psychology student kung ikaw mismo hindi mo kayang iapply yung mga natututunan mo.

Yes, i’ve been studying Psychology for almost 3 years and a half. Pero kapag nagkaka anxiety or nasstress ako dahil sa irregular menstruation ko, wala akong magawa kundi maging emotional. Sabi sa lesson namin, positive thinking lang daw at controlling your thoughts para di ka mastress, “mind over matter” nga din daw, nasa isip lang natin yun. I already tried it, pero hindi talaga maalis sa isip ko yung mag-alala lalo na pag may nararamdaman ako. I’ve tried different ways para madivert sa iba yung attention ko, minsan effective, madalas hindi. Madalas, nakikita ako ng mga tao na masaya, pero habang nagsasaya ako, di ko pa rin maiwasang mag-isip ng kung anu-ano. Sa ganitong sitwasyon, naiisip ko talaga, na may mga bagay na medyo madaling pag-aralan, pero kapag naeexperience mo na, nababalewala lahat ng natutunan mo.

But still, okay din yung may alam ka sa field ng Psychology. Kasi, medyo nababawasan kahit papano yung stress at mas nagiging aware ka sa sitwasyon mo. Wag kayong mag-alala, di pa po ako nababaliw hahaha. Im just sharing my thoughts haha.

Yung nagrereview ka pero pilit kang sinusubukan ng lamig ng panahon at ng kama mo. Parang gusto kong matulog at magtalukbong ng kumot kaysa mag-aral.